I have a question that has bothered me since my question, "Chronological Order of Star Wars Literature", was closed for being off topic. In the note about why it was closed there is this titbit of information, "Requests for lists of works or recommendations are off-topic as they do not fit our questions and answers format. Feel free to ask about people's favorites in chat." This bothers me because a) I wasn't asking favourites and b) I was asking for reading order which I thought was allowed. I was under this impression and frankly still and because; before I posted and since it was closed I have read the help and the tour pages and saw this the below image (in the Tour).
I am confused by this situation and trying to improve. Even in this question here on Meta, shows that there was a discussion on this but not decisive and furthers my confusion, as I was directed to start a chat --- but currently do not have the reputation to do so.
So my question is this - how can I ask better questions that aren't put on hold for not following the rules, when it appears that I did?