Just my 2 knuts.
People posting here might not necessarily know me, but I think I can call myself a Mos regular of the past few (~6) months - apparently, to a point where people were even willing to elect me a room owner.
I've been in Mos every day (including weekends and national holidays) for some months now, from approximately 8:30 to 0:00 UTC +3 - meaning I was there when a good portion of messages was posted.
I've also been in the new room, and SQB was very kind to carry over our RO-ship from Mos, along with all the feeds (and some new ones).
The discussion so far has been peaceful, with an occasional person asking "what happened to M#s?", at which point they were redirected to meta.
No sign of heated emotions, and certainly no one is getting mad; I, however, agree that certain changes should be made. Setting the whole be nice thing aside, I'm willing to paraphrase something I saw on a main meta post regarding chat:
When taken out of context and displayed away from Stack Exchange, a chatroom transcript should not compromise the community.
Which, as I see it, means that a chatroom conversation should not be dependent on context to verify whether it is offensive or not. I should disclaim that I have been a proponent of context-aware flagging - here and here - so I'm going to change my own view right now and say that a message must not rely on context to be non-offensive.
It's a simple litmus test to implement - if you think your message may be deemed offensive by a person who knows nothing of the room, or the site, or even Stack Exchange - consider again if you wish to post it in its current state.
- That would also solve the problem of anonymous flagging which prompted my defense of context-based flag review.
I don't think waiting a weekend or a week is going to solve anything - I'm going to guess now that some if not most of the users were not here when the storm broke, and are just as baffled at this as I was this morning. Telling people to "stay put" for some time as the dust settles down is not a viable solution - I appreciate the openness and input from everyone here, but I support the opinion that this site needs a third place. There may be some Stacks that haven't got one, but we're not those stacks.
For me, it's been very pleasant to be in Mos - whatever "pattern" or "tendency" there was, I must have missed it. Either way, I think having a fresh start with this room is the best we can do.
Shutting it down now, and waiting for an officially sanctioned reboot is only going to make us - us, as in the people who were moderating Mos - more incompetent. Given the quality of the talk so far, I think we're in for a good start.