The F.A.Q.F.A.Q. doesn't actually forbid list questions, instead forbidding a specific subset of those questions. However, the fact remains that we are NOT a reference site. This format (Q & A) is never going to be a good reference site builder because of how the content is solicited. Any time one person could not reasonably be expected to answer the question, that's a fairly good indication that you just asked a bad question.
I'm not talking about hard questions. You know, the ones that there are only a few individuals on the planet, known by some as experts, know the answers to. I know previously people have declared that limited lists are okay. There are quite a lot of questions that deal with lists throughout a large amount of meta. I know that's a lot of reading to get through, but I know you can handle it.
We also have the additional provision in the above mentioned FAQ that questions should be asked from an actual problem and not from idle curiosity. It seems like many of the list questions may have a difficult time meeting this criteria.
So after a two years of accepting these kind of questions, the question we need to ask ourselves is "Are they generating good content?".
I have intentionally not called out specific users or questions in this post because I don't want us getting distracted in the conversation. I would say that you need to post examples in any answer that you give (I know I will be in mine) on either side of line.